Leif Timothy Umphrey - Online Memorial Website

Sorry for the loss of Leify. So sorry. 

I kinda thought when my baby was born that the sadness I feel would diminish some. But, even though your cousin Marguerite is the light of my life; I find myself reminded of you constantly, and wishing you were here as much as I did the day after you left us. I feel in many ways you sent her to me, she is wonderful and beautiful inside and out, and little things bring your face to mind all of the time. I know you are watching out for us and Uncle John from up above, but I can not help but be jealous of the heavens. Now I know, no matter what happens, although the grief has gotten better over time, my sadness will never really go away, because nothing could replace my beautiful wonderful little nephew. We all miss you so much Leify, and our love for you continues to grow even after your gone.

I'm so sorry for your loss of your beautiful son.

C.M.
Oregon

The moment that I knew you had died,
My heart split in two,
The one side filled with memories,
The other died with you.

I often lay awake at night,
When the world is fast asleep,
And take a walk down memory lane,
With tears upon my cheek.

Remembering you is easy,
I do it every day,
But missing you is a heartache,
That never goes away.

I hold you tightly within my heart,
And there you will remain,
Life has gone on without you,
But it never will be the same.

For those who still have their children,
Treat them with tender care,
You will never know the emptiness,
As when you turn and they are not there.

Don't tell me that you understand,
don't tell me that you know.
Don't tell me that I will survive,
How I will surely grow.

Don't tell me this is just a test,
That I am truly blessed.
That I am chosen for the task,
Apart from all the rest.

Don't come at me with answers
That can only come from me,
Don't tell me how my grief will pass,
That I will soon be free.

Don't stand in pious judgment
Of the bonds I must untie,
Don't tell me how to grieve,
Don't tell me when to cry.

Accept me in my ups and downs,
I need someone to share,
Just hold my hand and let me cry,
And say, "My friend, I care."

My mom is a survivor, or so I've heard it said. But, I can hear her crying at night when all others are in bed. I watch her lay awake at night and go to hold her hand, she does not know that I am with her, to help her understand. But, like the sands on the beach, that never wash away, I watch over my surviving mom who thinks of me each day. She wears a smile for others,...a smile of disguise, but through heaven's doors, I see tears flowing from her eyes. My Mom tries to cope with death, to keep my memory alive, but anyone who knows her, knows it's just a way for her to survive. As I watch over my surviving mother through Heaven's door. I try to tell her that angels watch over me forevermore. I know that doesn't help her, or ease the burden that she bears, so if you get a chance please go visit her and show her that you care. No matter what she says, no matter what she feels, my surviving mom has a broken heart that time won't ever heal.

Dear Carolyn & Family,

 

I found you on Twitter & have so often wondered who Leif was in your posts, and I finally visited this website and understand now.  Thank you for sharing your story and this beautiful website dedicated to your oldest boy.  My children have an older  sister named Sandy who went to Heaven before they were born at the same age as Leif and from the same thing ( I was not her mom but in a sense still feel she is a part of our family!)

 

thank you for sharing, Tammy Harper

As I travel across this land
There is something missing today
It’s my Angel child
The one God took away

He gave me that beautiful child
Then he took them straight away
What was the point I asked
As I knelt down and prayed

I never got to see my child play
And grow like all the others
I thought Lord that was my job
A child, and me to be the Mother.

I never even got any warning
Nothing was ever said
I woke up that sunny morning
To find my sweet child dead.

You gave them life, you stole it
You broke my heart in two
Why? Why? Dear Lord
That’s all I ask from you?

Copyright Sharon Wheeler

"A thousand words cannot bring you back,

I know because I have tried.

And neither can a million tears,

I know because I've cried!"

A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. But...there is no word for a parent who loses a child, that's how awful the loss is! - Neugeboren 1976, 154

Those we love remain with us,
For love itself lives on.
Cherished memories never fade,
Because one loved is gone.
Those we love can never be
More than a thought apart.
For as long as there's a memory,
They live on in our heart.

I often think of you and Tim. I often wish I was so much Closer to where you are. I know that a Baby is a gift God gives us, we know from the moment we here them words "Your going to have a baby!", that your life changes, there is  nothing more important  then that baby, and no matter what, you do your best always to make His life perfect, when somethings wrong you fix it, when there is a slight wimper you rush to comfort him, and kiss  tears away, when he laughs you melt, and when he smile you embrace. Nothing can ever take all of this away from you and Tim, you have all of this with Leify, He is your Gift, Your Special gift from God, I have my Gift you have yours. My gift is that you and Tim caried so much to shair his life with us all, with picturs viedo's and emails. You are Both wonderful Parents and You are loved deeply, thought of Often. Brandon and I light one candle each night in our front window Its placed for your SON, LEIFY. When my Baby girl asked what it was , I told her its the light Lanye, to show you love someone and they will always be be inside your heart, his name is Leify Umphery he is Mommy's friends, Mrs Carolyn & Mr Timmy's Baby Boy he lives in Heaven  now. All our Love is always with your whole family. May God bless you all and always keep you safe and well loved in his arm's

We thought of you with love today,
but that is nothing new.
We thought about you yesterday,
and the day before that, too.
We think of you in silence,
and often speak your name.
All we have are memories,
and your picture in a frame.
Your memory is our keepsake,
with which we'll never part.
God has you in his keeping,
we have you in our hearts.

(Author Unknown)

A man who loses his wife is a widower.
A woman who loses her husband is a widow.
There is no name for a parent that loses a child,
for there is no word to describe the pain.
~ Author Unknown ~

"A mother holds her children's hands for a short while and their hearts forever." -anonymous

 

Not a moment goes by that I don't have you on my mind Leify angel.

The Broken Chain

We little knew that morning
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly
In death we do the same
It broke our hearts to lose you,
you did not go alone;
for part of us went with you,
the day God called you home.
You left us peaceful memories,
your love is still our guide,
and though we cannot see you,
you are always at our side.

Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same,
but as God call us one by one,
the chain will link again.

Carolyn and Tim,

 

For some reason, the past few days you have been in my heart and on my mind even more than usual. I love you both and am there for you whenever you need me.

 

Carolyn, you are doing amazing with this site. This song is so...just....

 

I love you.

TIM & CAROLYN,

FOR THE PAST TWO DAYS MY THOUGHTS HAVE BEEN ON BOTH OF YOU. THIS WEB SITE IS SO INCREDIBLE.I HAVE BEEN GOING TO THE WEB SITE JUST TO LOOK AT LEIFY'S PICTURES. THE SONG THAT YOU HAVE CHOOSEN IS SO VERY TRUE... I THANK THE GOOD LORD FOR PUTTING LEIFY IN THIS WORLD TO MAKE IT A BETTER PLACE. I'LL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOLDING YOU AND SEEING YOU PRECIOUS SMILE.

LOVE, NANNA LORI

Happy Birthday Leify! We love and miss you and are always in our heart and thoughts.

 

Happy Birthday my little Leify!  Daddy and I think of you everyday and miss you so much!!

Happy Birthday Leif!!!! Send your family lots of angel hugs and kisses! I bet your birthday party in heaven will be great, lots of cake and dancing. Your faily misses you so much, send them the strength to get thru this very hard day, Little Leif. Lots of Luv & Hugs!

Happy Birthday, little one!! We know you realize how much you are loved and missed. Baby dances all day long......................

Happy Birthday Leify! We miss you so much here, but we are so happy you came to be with us. You brought so much joy into so many lives, but I know you are doing that from heaven too. I know your here, I can feel you everytime I look out in the ocean and into the bright blue sky. I also know you are going to be a wonderful big brother to Liam, and help him be perfect just like you were. I love you so much Leify.

Love Auntie Marie

Happy Birthday Leify! Lots of angel kisses and hugs for everyone! :)

Happy Birthday precious Leify! We knew and loved you over the miles and still love you into the heavens. I remember how soft your little bit of hair was and how you fell asleep in Uncle Doug's arms. How exciting that you will be a big brother and we know that you will be watching over baby Liam. Lots of Love Aunt Claire & Uncle Doug

Happy Birthday Leify. I was so lucky to spend time with
you. You were extremely inquisitive even at six weeks, so bright eyed
and just taking everything in. You were happy just to be with your mommy and daddy and the ones who love you(including puppies).
Happy birthday in heaven, I know
you are still with us. You were always an angel and still are.
You will be the best big brother. We will never forget your precious
smile. Sending love and hugs and kisses from Aunty Maren

Darling Grandbaby Leify,

We think about how wonderful it was just holding you, and giving you a bottle, and how warm and soft your cheek felt when we cuddled you to our face. I can't think of anything feeling softer than that did.
You will be with us forever, in a very special, precious place in our hearts. We know how happy you are now in heaven, and you are making everyone there even happier with your beautiful smile. I'm looking at a picture of you right now, and your face it lit up with a radiant, irresistable smile.
We are so blessed to have you in our lives, and know you are still so close to us.
And we know what a perfect big brother you will be.
I only wish that Poppop had gotten to know his namesake better. He would have cherished you even more.
Happy birthday, Leify; you brought a lifetime of sunlight to our lives, and it will always be there.

All our love and hugs and kisses,
Poppop and Nana

Have a wonderful birthday, Leify! Your family loves and misses you so much! It’s hard to be without you special little angels even though we know you’re around us always! I know you will be close to your family on your special day to give them extra tugs in their hearts!

I know your birthday is getting close lil Leify. I hope you realize how much your family loves you and misses you. Send them some angel kisses from Heaven. Happy Birthday Leify.

Happy Birthday to Leify angel. I love you and your mommy and daddy.

If I coud sing I would sing to you.
If I could write words of poetry I would write them to you.
These things are wonderful things you have given to us.
Your laughter has sung to the world giving love and joy.
Your smiles have given us words of poetry to live by.
What a magical little boy, you've given such courage and strength.
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dear leify - i am going to try not to get to mushy- because i can't break down while i do this. i am so lucky i got to see you come into the world! you changed my life, poppy's life, of course your mommy and daddy's life and so many others- i remember the first video we made of you when you were three days old- your mommy laid you on your new under ther sea gadget for wake time- and wow you were unbelievable! you zeroed in on the yellow fish right away- and were actually trying to reach it it truly seemed. and we have the proof! we all sat around and gazed at you with wonder- we were all hopelessly in love with you! you were so unbelievaly strong- after having no boys in our family line in 3 generations, many girls, we were mesmerized by your every move! the avatar on you standing on my lap- you were only 2 months, and one week! i kept telling your mother how advanced you were- she finally realized i was serious! i remember how poppy and i would act like crazy people on the webcam trying to make you laugh! and how you loved to babble!!! you loved to "talk" and giggle and play and read books, i could go on and on. we all have so many precious memories- we all miss you so much- but we know you are ok! you are looking down on your mommy, daddy and little brother- and we know you are happy! we love you so much precious sweet pea!!!happy birthday!!! hugs and kisses. mormor and poppy

Happy Birthday in heaven Leify, what a precious angel. We love you both and think of you all the time. Love you! AC

I love you Carolyn and Tim. I still think of you and Leify everyday.